People who can’t be trusted are everywhere, and are tricky to spot. Because it’s not just the overt villain you must watch out for. Not all the untrustworthy are cads out to betray you for their own personal gain. Some people have hearts of gold and, worse than being sneaky, it’s simply their judgment that cannot be trusted. You know the kind.
Today I questioned my own judgment.
I have known for a few weeks that I will be resigning my position at a job I love to move to another city and open a business with my husband. I’ve been really excited and also scared, and have had mixed feelings about leaving a job that is so perfect for me for the “great unknown” of opening a business. However, I planned to give my notice to my employer in the New Year.
I have a colleague I really like. We’ll call her Heather. Heather is a manager here and is well liked by everyone, and there are a couple of hundred employees, so that’s saying something. I was among the first that she told about her pregnancy, swearing me to secrecy – a vow I took and kept. When I found out she was married to a custodial staff member, Kirk, I was surprised, because he is a real gossip and not what I’d envisioned as “her type”. I was again sworn to secrecy, since it is forbidden to have relationships with people at work and could cost one or both of them their jobs. Again, it is no struggle for me to keep my word in this regard.
Yesterday, in the supply room, Heather laughed at how much product I had in stock. “You need to lay off ordering so much stuff,” she said. So, I told her…
“Listen, you have to keep this a secret, okay? Do NOT tell Kirk!! But I am resigning in a couple of months. That’s why I’m ordering so much stock – because I know it will take months to replace me. I’m going to tell the boss in the New Year. My husband and I are moving to another city to open our own business.”
“Congratulations!” Heather exclaimed.
“DO NOT TELL KIRK!” I admonished again.
Honestly, I could have sworn she said, “I won’t.” But maybe I just assumed she wouldn’t.
Today, Kirk walked into a crowded room at my workplace and congratulated me at the top of his voice. My blood ran cold. I quickly shushed him and he lowered his voice but continued to have an open conversation with me about my plans in what was, now, a hushed room full of eavesdropping ears.
So, despite my intention to wait until after Christmas, I ended up giving my notice that day – the Friday before Christmas weekend. It went well and I may even be offered the opportunity to have a one year leave of absence to “try it out” with our own business, just in case it fails.
But boy am I disappointed in not just Heather’s judgment, or Kirk’s, but my own.